Monday, February 6, 2012

The things that Tera does...

I just finished texting Tera's physical therapist to tell her about Tera's successes in pushing herself up to her hands and knees and the response I got reminds of two things.  One, how incredibly important this step is for her, and two, how lucky we are for the therapists we have.  I just can't believe what she's been able to accomplish in one week.  I will be honest, in the past few weeks I've been struck on occasion by little bouts of envy of other parents with babies Tera's age.  If you are one of my very good friends reading this, please know I was so hesitant to even write these words for fear of causing you to second guess sharing milestones with us.  I absolutely love hearing about what all of our friends' kids can do and I never want anyone to feel like they can't/shouldn't share good news about their children's accomplishments.  The hard part for me, is actually somewhat difficult to explain.  Because Tera is really only somewhat delayed, I'm used to her being fairly close to what the expectations are.  But as she's gotten a little older, and the expectations have increased, I've noticed a slightly bigger gap.  This is not unexpected and she's still not terribly delayed, but it's hard not to compare your kid to someone else's, despite your best intentions and reason. 

When I brought this up to Tom last week, he reacted as I thought he might.  It doesn't bother him.  I knew this to be the case because he's always been a person who cared little what other people thought about him and I know he feels the same way as a parent.  He also knows that the professionals (aka her Dream Team of specialists) say she's doing great.  Still, in an effort to reassure me, he came up with a list of milestones most other kids aren't currently reaching (mostly because other people don't know they exist).  So in Tera's list of accomplishments we have the following: planking, which we're actually trying to break her of but is still incredibly hard to do for most other people, having record breaking amounts of pictures taken of her, her own Facebook page with close to 200 friends, goalie kick saves, and yelling louder than most kids I've heard. 

But then last week came and she decided she didn't just want her own list of milestones, she was going to reach the regular ones too.  So she threw in self-feeding and pushing to hands and knees.  I can't tell you how important her therapists find this because it really takes a lot muscles to be able to crawl.  Despite the fact that many people have told us a lot of kids skip crawling and go right to walking, her therapists have been very clear how important the crawling step is and that she will crawl at some point or another.  Now we just wait until she coordinates those little legs and arms into a forward motion.

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